Tuesday, November 29, 2011

Compassion as "feeling with," or even "suffering with"

Compassion
--'com'=together
-'passion'=feeling

When we see someone making a mistake in how they live their life, It’s so easy to say ‘it’s their choice, I’ll let them make it.” Our society perhaps reinforces this with its doctrine of independence and tolerance. "Live and let live." But the fact is, we suffer through the choices of others. We are not, none of us, completely independent. We deal with this by maneuvering ourselves out of the path of the storm brought on by someone else's poor choices. Frequently, we accept this as the most logical action.

Is it ever the right choice, rather than backing away in self-preservation, to throw our lot in with someone else, and take on the consequence of their foolishness?

What will we do for another?


For a friend, I would join in something crazy. For friendship, I went camping in November when the temp barely hit 60 during the day even though it seemed like a crazy idea. I did so because I valued the friendship more highly than my own comfort, and whether my friends were doing something crazy or not, I wanted to be with them. Yet this is a minor example. Would I face danger for another, when I could just as easily walk away? What if the danger was the direct result of that person's actions, yet had nothing to do with my own?

For a friend, perhaps. For someone who had proved their worth, possibly. For a good cause, hopefully.

What would it say if we did that for a total stranger, treating a stranger as a friend, casting our lot in with theirs to show that we are with them, accepting them as they are despite the mess they carry with them?

In the book A Wind in the Door,  by Madeleine L'Engle, there is a scene in which the boy Calvin is trying to prevent a farondala (mythical character) named Sporos from joining the other farondalae in destroying the fara (their parent-creatures), and says (paraphrased) “If you go in, I’m going in with you.” Sporos: “To kill the fara?” Calvin: “No. To be with you.” And that’s what he does. And then when he is sucked in, and another character, Meg, is sucked in, one of their companions, Mr. Jenkins, who has difficulty even believing in the farondalae, comes to pull them back—successfully, but he is ensnared. It is this action that speaks to Sporos and reveals the distinction of good and evil—that Mr. Jenkins would risk himself for Sporos, who he barely knew, and that the Echthroi (the forces of evil trying to lure Sporos) would then try to kill him. A somewhat similar scene is in the movie Hook when Peter Pan's son Jack, attracted to the fatherly affection Captain Hook has shown him, sees Captain Hook kill another boy, Rufio, whom his father then grieves as a son. Jack realizes that his father has indeed risked his life and the lives of others to save him, despite his fickleness, while Hook will kill to keep his power.

We, collectively as humans, have made a mess. A big mess. A mess created by millenia of poor choices, a mess so big that we have little hope of cleaning it up. If another being saw our world, would they care to visit? With corruption in our politics, murder in our streets, and selfishness in our hearts, we have not made this world a pleasant place.

Yet Someone came to visit--Someone who was so perfect that only He was even capable of cleansing us. He refused to sit back and watch us suffer from our mistakes, commenting "oh that's too bad for them" (this is pity), but instead came down, not as a glorified being, which would create a stark and intimidating study in contrasts, but as one of us, taking human flesh, sufferling our fatigue, touching our frailties, contending with our foolishness. Not only so, but He submitted to our mess, brought to face death by the envy and corruption of the leaders, and taking on, taking upon Himself, the full weight of our sin. Jesus cast his lot in with us, knowing that unless he did so, we would perish from our foolishness. It was only the sacrifice of perfection that would make a way for us to turn and be cleansed, able to now approach God with a clear conscious (Eph. 3:12).

What will we do?

We have a dying world around us. It will not be saved by our cool, pitying observance from the comfort of our church sanctuaries. We must not be afraid to be out there, sharing in the pain of this world, risking our health, our safety, and whatever security we've got, to offer salvation. The real sacrifice has been made, by Jesus who was perfect, but He asks us to follow His example, to go, tell, share, sacrifice, and love.

"If anyone would come after me, he must deny himself and take up his cross and follow me."--Jesus, Matthew 16:24

Follow in His footsteps. He's shown the way.

Saturday, November 26, 2011

Caption this


If you come by this post, create your own caption and post it in "Comments" :) Note: the bear is looking at zoo tourists through a glass wall.

Tuesday, November 8, 2011

"Hurt" ≠ "bad idea"

When we get hurt, perhaps in a relationship or in the process of completing a task or even in trying to serve God, we hear an accusing whisper in our ear as we pause to recover.

“Now see what happened! You should know now that this isn’t going to work. You don’t have what it takes. It was a mistake to even try, and now you’re paying for it!”

This is the lie we hear over and over again. It may come from the spectators, the cynics with a narrow vision of what’s possible. It may come (in softer words) from those genuinely concerned for our well-being. It may even come from the recesses of our own mind, our natural (but world-based) reason. But in the end, this is the deception of Satan, who hates to see us persevere. Our own experiences of growing up should teach us that “hurt” does not necessarily equal “bad,” just as “comfortable” often does not equal “right.”


I was watching some kids riding bikes the other day. One little girl, about seven years old maybe, toppled off her bike a few times. But rather than sit down and cry, nurse her hurt, and refuse to get back on, she smiled a little, promptly got up, and resumed riding.

Perhaps the analogy is a tad cliché, but when we ourselves learned to ride a bike, our success depended on our willingness to, after falling flat on our face, get up smiling and hop back onto the bike, confident that eventually we’d be a smooth rider. If we just lay on the ground thinking "this proves I'm a terrible rider, maybe a terrible person; this isn’t going to have a good ending," we would never be successful cyclists. We had to push ourselves up (often with encouragement from parents, teachers, and friends), hit the road again, and keep learning.


That's really what life is about, isn't it? Not about feeling good every single moment, but about pushing on through the hard times and learning what its all about.


Right now I'm going through some discouragement and circumstances that really remind me of my last year of high school (it’s now my last year of college). I've definitely felt the inclination to look at the situation and say "why does this keep happening? it must be my fault. I'm never going to get better at avoiding these problems."

Who among us fell off his or her bike ONLY once?

Even if my circumstances resemble a broken record right now, the song is going to have a different ending than it did in high school. I believe this for two reasons.
1. I've changed. I learned from my previous mistakes and know what not to do; that is, not to give up, not to cling tightly to my own control, not to become a cynical recluse (the thought has crossed my mind…). Instead, to trust God, and remember that He is ever-faithful and ever-present. This leads to the second reason.
2. This is NOT the end of the story! My story will not end this way, if I'm faithful to God and He has anything to say about it. He promises hope, honor, glory in the end. This stepping-towards-joy journey will END in joy, and in Jesus.

"For our light and momentary troubles are achieving for us an eternal glory that far outweighs them all. So we fix our eyes not on what is seen, but on what is unseen, since what is seen is temporary, but what is unseen is eternal. "--2 Corinthians 4:17-18

Take hope, fellow journeyers! Even though we're surrounded by darkness, we will see good days. Just keep going, keep learning, and never lose sight of the Savior. He does not change.

"But hold on to what you believe in the light
When the darkness has robbed you of your sight"

--Mumford and Sons, "Hold On to What You Believe"